Sunday, January 3, 2010

It's a Love Story? Part four...

Was I perturbed at Lu yesterday? Well today I am downright angry. It's one of those times when you shake your head and go "where did I go wrong"? She's having car trouble, she's moving home, and I don't even know where she left her brain. Don't get me wrong...I know she's going through a rough patch and I'm totally sympathetic. To that end, her Dad and I have been trying to help her. We told her to get the car looked at and if it's okay to drive long distance we will come up and trade her cars, to get hers down here where either DEBF or her brothers can fix it and save her a gazillion dollars. Somehow she manages to have trouble getting her part done. Then I keep asking her what day she's off so she can come down and bring some stuff. We don't have a truck at our disposal unless we want to pay a fortune to use Hubby's work truck and since she took stuff up a little at a time it will take a couple of trips to get it all. But she keeps saying she'll look at her schedule and then text me. Only she doesn't. Finally last night I blew up and told her that contrary to her belief the world does not actually revolve around her. The rest of us do not sit and wait for her to be able to come down, we all have lives and so a little advanced notice of her arrival would come in handy for scheduling purposes. Then I hung up. I know, not well done of me...but this snafu (not my first choice word but clusterfuck is so rude) has been going on for days!! And I've got DEBF saying if she doesn't get the car here soon, he'll be in rehab and unable to fix it. So I'm a smidge on the frustrated side.

But I digress...back to the story....

When we left off yesterday our heroine had kicked Jackass to the curb (hopefully for good). She'd decided to leave the Hippie and return to the bosom of her family. She had begun talking to DEBF, at least about her car. So our heroine has returned to Iowa, with the secret knowledge that she will be leaving the Hippie. She wants to talk to her boss first to see how much notice is required to leave her job so that she's not stuck in the same apartment for forever with a saddened Hippie. Her boss says that next week can be her last week. Although she also offers Lu a place to live should she decide to stay in Iowa because she's awesome at her job and they hate to see her go! But boss lady will definitely see if Lu can transfer to the store closest to home. Lu also calls her old job to see if the transfer should fall through to they have a place for her and they do! So Lu will not be jobless.

Now our Lu has been exhausted from all the work, shopping, driving that Christmas entails. She's been cranky and mean. (Her mother also suspects that she needs a platelet check as this is how she behaves when platelets are crashing). She decides to tell Hippie what's what. So on New Year's Eve she tells him that she's moving back home. She doesn't break up with him, she just explains that she's tired of all the driving and she's moving home. That they can try long distance and see each other on weekends ect. He gets majorly pissed off and says that he knows how this works. Pretty soon they'll be down to the occasional phone call and then it's over. (Well, that was the plan.) But our heroine feels bad, she's trying to let him down gently and also not make the living situation unbearable for the next week or so. I know that also this night, DEBF sends her some heartfelt texts (and let me tell you, I know this boy is a sweet talker) about new years and new starts. Sorry I don't have the original texts. Lu would ordinarily forward them to me to see what I thought, but as we're not speaking...well no blog fodder. So Lu is finishing her work week, supposedly getting her car looked at and packing. Hippie is hurt, mad, pissy. DEBF is cautiously optimistic that he can change and get yet another chance with our heroine. And that's the story so far. Do bear in mind that the heroine has other guys who text her on a regular basis as well. One she never even dated who says he'll wait for her forever.

I'll keep you updated as the gossip rolls in...will DEBF really turn things around (he's currently on the list for the residential rehab program in town. They'll call him when they have an open bed and he has an hour and a half to show up. So far he's been sober since he saw Lu)? Will the Hippie put some effort into getting her back? Will a tall dark stranger come into the picture? What's next for our heroine??

♥Spot

8 comments:

  1. It will all work out! She's made the start and that's important. Good luck Lu!

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  2. Oh goodness, you've got some major drama on your hands here! I hope having Lu back home works out well and gets her on her feet and able to make the decisions that will serve her well. She's on her way, and she's got a caring mama to help her out!

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  3. That sweet talker sounds familiar. I was married to one who could talk me out of leaving him every time. I read a book called Verbal Abuse Victims speak out by Patricia Evans, and learned that, actually, he was manipulating me by using my sympathy and compassion to stay with him. Not to mention he would turn me against my mother and sister because, well, they were talking SENSE. What a mess!
    I haven't read all the parts but I do hope it all works out. Sending warm thoughts your way.

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  4. I hope everything works out for her.

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  5. total drama island ... I can hardly wait for my two to start dating ... eeesh

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  6. Tina~ thanks for your optimism!!

    DfG~ I hope so. It's so hard to watch them and not meddle.

    Angelia~ you nailed that boy. He was controlling, possesive, and derogatory. I doubt rehab will be enough to change those things.

    Heather~ thanks!

    Dani~ me either. By then, my life should be tame in comparison...hehe.

    ♥Spot

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  7. Wow...she's got 'em coming out of the woodworks! I hope Lu can just take a breather for a while...

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  8. As strong and heroic as beating an alcohol addiction is (and it truly is) there is a whole lot of baggage that goes along with being in a relationship with a recovered alcoholic. My father (who is 25 years sober) has put my mom through all kinds of issues and still struggles with parts of his sobriety. He no longer craves the alcohol but all the parts of his personality that got him to that point are still there. He's a wonderful man and a survivor in my book but will never be truly healed from his demons. My opinion? Lu's not ready for that. Keep us posted, Spot (as I know you will). =)
    Mindy
    www.thesuburbanlife.com

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