So it's Saturday morning and all's quiet. Why? Because no one else is home. This happens a lot on Saturdays and I freakin love it. It's like a mini-Mother's Day every week. I know a lot of folks think that Mother's Day should be spent with your mother, showering her with affection and praise, catering to her every whim. Screw that. I just want some time off. Time where nobody is asking me where something is (if it's your property, it's probably your responsibility to keep track of it), no one is asking me to cook (find something frozen, pop it in the microwave, presto- you're a freakin chef!), no one is breaking my concentration to tell me something (strictly at their convenience, mind you) that I probably could have gone that extra half hour without knowing. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE being a mother. Best job ever. Biggest and most fufilling accomplishment of my life! No regrets. Not one. However, it's been a 20 year long career. I've been a mother for technically half of my life, if you count pregnancy. That's a long time. And make no mistake, it's a passion, it consumes you. It was my entire identity for many years. "Hello, I'm (insert name here)'s mom." And the job will never be finished. You don't retire from Motherhood. There's no pension program (please don't tell Sean, I'm trying to convince him that he is ultimately responsible for supporting me in my old age). It is an ongoing body of work that may slow down from time to time, but in most circumstances, doesn't lay off. So on Mother's Day (or whenever I can manage it), I like some alone time. Time to remember that I was indeed a person before I had children. I have a past, a present, and a future that are indeliably linked with theirs and yet are a strand of fate all on their own. And it's nice to remember that buried under that "Mother" exterior lies a strong passionate woman with ideas, opinions and stories about things that have nothing to do with my children. And every so often, I let her loose. And so should you. Happy Mother's Day (early) to all of you moms out there. I have the great distinction of knowing some truly fabulous moms and I wish you all a happy day of rejuvenation, appreciation, and relaxation.
Now, I'm going to leave you with a comment that I got on the other day on one of my blogs- Noel said...
Lol....I want to marry your son, Spot! xD
Noel, I don't know who you are, because clicking on your name doesn't give me a profile, but you are either exceptionally brave or curiously insane. Of course, you might have to be both to take on Sean. I just want you to know, that he has stated that he's looking for "the whole happy meal" in a girl. Smart (very very important), witty, able to understand and retaliate sarcasm, great sense of humor and pleasing to look at. He says (so sweet!) that he has two females in his house that embody these qualities (me & Lu) so he'll settle for nothing less. I would also add that compassion would not go astray as a quality. He has a brother with autism. And Sean devotes a lot of time to working with people with disabilities at camp and a lot of time working with cub scouts. So if you embody these qualities, go for it. And good luck to you, my dear.
Oh, and I have had betrothal offers for him, so I need to know what kind of terms you're offering here...