Saturday, May 8, 2010

The one where I discuss Motherhood and try to marry Sean off...

So it's Saturday morning and all's quiet. Why? Because no one else is home. This happens a lot on Saturdays and I freakin love it. It's like a mini-Mother's Day every week. I know a lot of folks think that Mother's Day should be spent with your mother, showering her with affection and praise, catering to her every whim. Screw that. I just want some time off. Time where nobody is asking me where something is (if it's your property, it's probably your responsibility to keep track of it), no one is asking me to cook (find something frozen, pop it in the microwave, presto- you're a freakin chef!), no one is breaking my concentration to tell me something (strictly at their convenience, mind you) that I probably could have gone that extra half hour without knowing. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE being a mother. Best job ever. Biggest and most fufilling accomplishment of my life! No regrets. Not one. However, it's been a 20 year long career. I've been a mother for technically half of my life, if you count pregnancy. That's a long time. And make no mistake, it's a passion, it consumes you. It was my entire identity for many years. "Hello, I'm (insert name here)'s mom." And the job will never be finished. You don't retire from Motherhood. There's no pension program (please don't tell Sean, I'm trying to convince him that he is ultimately responsible for supporting me in my old age). It is an ongoing body of work that may slow down from time to time, but in most circumstances, doesn't lay off. So on Mother's Day (or whenever I can manage it), I like some alone time. Time to remember that I was indeed a person before I had children. I have a past, a present, and a future that are indeliably linked with theirs and yet are a strand of fate all on their own. And it's nice to remember that buried under that "Mother" exterior lies a strong passionate woman with ideas, opinions and stories about things that have nothing to do with my children. And every so often, I let her loose. And so should you. Happy Mother's Day (early) to all of you moms out there. I have the great distinction of knowing some truly fabulous moms and I wish you all a happy day of rejuvenation, appreciation, and relaxation.

Now, I'm going to leave you with a comment that I got on the other day on one of my blogs- Noel said...
Lol....I want to marry your son, Spot! xD

Noel, I don't know who you are, because clicking on your name doesn't give me a profile, but you are either exceptionally brave or curiously insane. Of course, you might have to be both to take on Sean. I just want you to know, that he has stated that he's looking for "the whole happy meal" in a girl. Smart (very very important), witty, able to understand and retaliate sarcasm, great sense of humor and pleasing to look at. He says (so sweet!) that he has two females in his house that embody these qualities (me & Lu) so he'll settle for nothing less. I would also add that compassion would not go astray as a quality. He has a brother with autism. And Sean devotes a lot of time to working with people with disabilities at camp and a lot of time working with cub scouts. So if you embody these qualities, go for it. And good luck to you, my dear.

Oh, and I have had betrothal offers for him, so I need to know what kind of terms you're offering here...

Happy Saturday,


  1. Oh goodness, I'm laughing so hard at about your son's offer of marriage by an anon person. LOL

    Happy Mother's Day

  2. Your family is famous! Anonymous marriage proposals are the proof. Do you think that fame will change you? (or just change your car, house etc).

  3. Ha ha ... poor Sean - auctioned off to the highest bidder.

    Happy day to you :)

    ...and YAY for time off!!

  4. Aw, I loved your Mother's Day post. So much of my frustration (that you received the brunt of on my last post) has to do with exactly what you spoke of, how my identity is MOM 24/7 with little regard for the fact that hey, I'm a person too. lol. But the moments when I'm overcome with love and pride for my brood far outweigh the pull-my-hair-out-at-the-roots moments. I don't have any regrets either. Although the quiet time, my friend, is in short supply. Thank you so much for your comment. It was well received and a good reminder. ;) Light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sure I will miss the interruptions some day.

    As far as your son, how old is he again? I would hate for my daughter to be out of the running due to my sporadic blogging habits. ;) His happy meal comment was so sweet it made my teeth hurt.

  5. I say sell Sean off to the highest bidder. Then we'll have oodles of extra cash for bail when we three hit the town!

  6. How many times have I mentioned to my kids that it is their duty to support us in our old age. Why do they always think that is a joke?

  7. I don't know, but I'm sorta thinkin that I might light to snatch up Sean for my oldest...she's 12 and a little cutie if I may say so. How old is Sean again?? Older than 12? Can he wait it out? Or is he younger??

  8. I bet Sean is loving this, tell him to stick to his guns and hold out for the whole happy meal because anything less would be a couple nuggets short.

    Happy Mothers Day Spot.

  9. Sean is totally completely responsible for taking care of you in your dotage. Also, fixing your computer. Foot rubs shouldn't be out of the question. Happy Mother's Day.

  10. A marriage proposal huh?

    Happy Mother's Day!

  11. Well, happy (late) mother's day to you, Spot. How have you been? I agree that on mother's day, the mothers should be left alone. Unfortunately, my family doesn't agree with me, lol.

    As for your son, the way you talk about him, I think everyone would want to marry him. Only Noel was brave enough to say it aloud. lol. If I weren't married already I'd definitely jump that wagon. lol.... Have a good rest of the day.

  12. LOL! Too funny! I wonder how many will come out of the woodwork. We could play a dating blog game! Woot!

    I am glad you got a day alone. I LOVE that. I really, really do. It's one reason I am so scared to move in with Jason. I don't want to lose my ALONE time. I did say yes to marriage so it will happen (but nowadays SOME married ppl live apart. LOL).

  13. Hahahaha. I love this!

    Happy late mother's day, Fruit Loop.

  14. Happy belated Mother's Day to you too!! I too had the bliss of time alone, albeit that mine was comprised of a work conference. Sure makes you appreciate coming home to the insanity though!

  15. Now that is a Mother's Day we should all aspire to! Unfortunately that is not an option with my mother, she demands our full attention and devotion! LOL!

    Who wouldn't want to marry Sean? BUT it is real good that he has standards!

  16. I typically do not comment on your blogs but really? How can you be auctioning Sean off to the highest bidder when he is betrothed to my daughter? Unacceptable! ~J

  17. RedHead~ I know right?!

    Tina~ Fame will never change me, but it will affect my house and my ride for sure!

    Dani~ and to you too!

    Mrs. Bear~ glad it helped. I'll throw your daughter's name in the pot.

    Elly~ sounds like a plan to me. Unfortunately child services might have something to say about it.

    Jerry~ For real. They are my retirement plan!

    Terry~ I'll add her to the list.

    Jimmy~ Oh indeed! He's not one to lower his standards.

    Murr~ as long as he supports me I'll be happy.

    WW~ Hope you had a good day as well. You should definitely start taking offers on Natalie. Save yourself a heap of high school drama.

    KT~ Great to hear from you again! Hope you enjoyed your mother's day!!

    Angelia~ you don't want to add Sydney's name to the pot. I think she might be the whole happy meal! I totally get what you mean. Marriage is not conducive to "alone" time. Quite the opposite usually.

    Una~ thanks dear!

    AA~ yes any alone or grown up time is rejuvenating. You can't miss them if they are always there!

    Heather~ Hope it was a good day anyway! I know. He's pretty awesome.

    J~ You know your daughter is my first choice and Sean's pretty much agreed. Teach her to cook.


  18. Um. Wow. I really wasn't expecting you to put that in one of your posts, Spot! :) Now I feel special. A little paranoid, as people were talking about me without me even knowing....but still special.

    As for the 'whole happy meal' thing...I'm pretty sure I have all that. (Being as humble as possible here...) Want a Big Mac thrown in?

    Glad, but not all surprised, that I wasn't the first to offer. :) HAppy belated Mother's Day, Spot!

  19. When I was Sean's age and my mother and I were traveling through Africa, some random man on the street offered her a herd of camels in exchange for me. She considered it for a moment too long for comfort. *shudder*