Monday, September 6, 2010

The one where I look for the silver lining but can't find it...

So on the whole, I'm really not a big fan of this year so far. And this weekend? Well, it's been a triple slam dunk of bad news. Friday a woman I call friend lost her husband. I'm still unsure of the details, a mutual friend of ours was trying to get things pieced together. But the details don't really matter. Her husband is gone. He was a vibrant fun-loving guy and the few times I actually spent with him were great. He had "lived" if you know what I mean and had great stories to tell. And together they were a fabulous couple. They were very close. He had retired a few years back, and she'd cut her hours back, both kids were out of college and settled. And they had a few grand kids. It was definitely their "golden years", but now he's gone. Suddenly. And my heart aches for her.

Next, a man we call friend and who's very close to my husband was diagnosed with prostrate cancer. Now prostrate cancer does have a 93% survival rate so his odds are good. Of course, they won't know for sure until they do the surgery. He too is a healthy active retiree enjoying his golden years with his wife. Again, they're one of those awesome couples who enhance each others personalities. Fingers crossed for him.

And the last husband's aunt may have ovarian cancer. She went to the ER Friday with intense pain and they admitted her. Her obgyn called in an oncologist (who just happens to be Lu's doctor so at least she's in good hands). There is a cyst the size of a tennis ball on her ovary. They're sending her to a larger hospital in a bigger city to do the surgery and biopsy. Of course, we won't really know anything til then. She's an amazing woman. For any of you who think I'm an inspiration, let me tell you, she wrote the book. She has a son with Downs that she's never stopped working with. Another son was paralyzed in a car accident and she quit her job to become his full time aide and activist. She is the one that everyone leans on when they need a shoulder.

So in conclusion, bad shit happens to good people. All. The. Damn. Time. And life is seldom fair. So you better count your blessings while you have them and don't let a day go by that you don't find something to appreciate about your life or the day that you were given. Because every day is a gift. And don't put off the little rewards you owe yourself. Don't spend your time thinking about doing something in the future. Do it now. Live in the day. You don't know how many days you have left.

Sorry for the seriousness, but it's been that kind of weekend (year).



  1. That last paragraph says it all Spot...all too true and I am grateful each and everyday for all the gifts that make up my life.

  2. Many people I know put off living for some reason. I often hear "some day" I'll do that. Why not now?

    My sister said to me, I'd love to learn how to surf and I said well, why not? She told me because it was impractical.

    I looked at her like she was nuts. Life is about living.

  3. boo. hugs. it will get better...eventually. promise.

  4. It's true - - count one's blessings all the time. Lately, because things in my life are such a mess, I keep trying to do just that, and I am still surprised at how much IS right, despite how much is wrong. I am sorry to read about all of your friend, and I am sorry to know about the hardships you are facing.

    Love you.

  5. Oh Honey, I'm so sorry to hear all of it.

    Your aunt is obviously a strong woman, one way or another she'll pull out of this, and so will you. A friend of mine recently had an 8 pound ovarian cyst the size of a loaf of bread removed that was completely benign. She named it George.

    Hang in there.

  6. I sincerely hope the best for everyone mentioned. Life does lend itself well to overall suckage some days.

    You are and inspiration, and I am truly sorry your year has been such a struggle. Find the joy and make your peace in that.

    Heart felt love headin' right atcha, hun.


  7. So sorry about the triple whammy. Your last paragraph is very good advice. And you are an inspiration to us all. Hugs.

  8. Those are words we all need to hear and remember. I've been thinking about this myself lately. I'm so sorry to hear your news, and I am hoping for the best for your friend and aunt. And my heart goes out to your friend who lost her husband....I can't imagine. Take care. xoxo

  9. That last paragraph spoke volumes. I hope all of your readers take your advice. Try to have a good day Spot.

  10. "Don't spend your time thinking about doing something in the future. Do it now."

    Amen Spot, this says it all.

    Things will get better, as you said we just have to look for the positive.

  11. {{{{Stavey}}}} You're in our thoughts and prayers. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

  12. I've always heard bad things happen in three's but they never say how much time goes inbetween.
    So sorry for all your friends and family.

    After yesterdays storm I was thinking the same thing..count your blessings!